10 Signs He's Not the One

• Some people say they "just knew" that they were dating their future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you're not sure if he's The One? If you're considering long-term commitment or marriage, it's time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, 10 signs that may indicate he's not for you.

• 1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you're fixating on his flaws, he's either not the one you want or you're not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace -- or at least accept.

• 2. You don't trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you're hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something's wrong. If there's something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he's not the right one for you.

• 3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all... even if it looks that way.

• 4. When you're sad, you don't turn to him for comfort.When you're a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can't see you at your worst? If you're worried about scaring him away, one of you isn't ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.

• 5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He's sweet. He's exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he'll do so on his own terms.

• 6. You can't really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he's probably not the one.

• 7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn't. You go to church every week; he's an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn't want to move; you can't imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: "Would I be willing to compromise on this?" If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.

• 8. You don't respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there's just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can't sustain itself.

• 9. You're not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn't do it for you, he's probably not your best long-term match.

• 10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling... Don't ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he's not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.

main tenis bersama federer

• susahnya lah nak hapdate blog..malas sangat tangan nak menaip, tapi selalu saja menjengah blog2 lain yang rajin update...kagum lah,rajin bebenor korang update kan..hehe..

• kay lah..tahun ni nak start bina skill baru..(bukan bina badan yer..)

• sem ni saya ambil ko-k TENIS (perlu ke nak capslock bold segala? T_T) oh..pasal tajuk main dengan federer tu ambil feel la konon..guna raket yang macam federer.. *_*

• last weekend balik rumah bagitahu emak: emak, jum pegi beli seluar sukan, sem ni saya masuk tenis, yay!! (dialog sebenar idok ler seskema itu.. )

• emak cakap: eh..bukan masuk swimming kah?

• saya cakap: tak la emak, tu sem lepas..sem ni masuk tenis lak..sem depan dan seterusnya kena pikir nak masuk apa pulak..hehehe.. (bajet muka sangat happy..macam ni-----------> ^_______^)

• emak cakap: oh..sem lepas masuk SWIMMING, sem ni masuk TENIS lak.. bila nak masuk kelas MENGAJI AL-QURAN??

• saya cakap: erk!!! emmm....., emmmm.......,mengaji al-quran tak ada dalam ko-k, emak...

• serius,emak memang suka psycho saya macam tu..pastu mula la pikir dalam hati, a'ah la kan..memang la bagus masuk sukan semua ni..tapi kalau kita balancekan antara dunia dan akhirat lagi la bertambah BERTAMBAH bertambah bagus.. kan?

• ye..bersukan memang salah satu cara hidup islam, yang amat pentingkan kesihatan..tapi kalau badan sihat walafiat segala, tapi al-quran tak reti nak baca, tajwid berterabur, macam mana tu..? saya mengaku yang saya ni memang lemah bab ni..lepas ni memang kena cari kelas mengaji lah.. huhu..

• emak cakap: muda2 ni la kena belajar,nanti dah tua sakit la,tak larat la,mudah lupa macam2 masalah..ustaz pun duk belajar lagi, apatah lagi kita ni..

• emm,betul cakap emak tu.. orang selalu simpan perkara2 seperti menutup aurat, menambah ilmu akhirat dan lain2 tu untuk hari tua..statement orang2 misalnya "saya tak bersedia lagi pakai tudung,nanti sampai masa insya'Allah saya pakai" nanti la dah tua saya belajar mengaji, nanti la tua saya itu,saya ini.. kalau benda2 tu tak sempat nak buat sebab mati? hmm.. mati tak tunggu tua..

• saya pun banyak kurangnya..kadang kita cepat sedar,insaf, tapi cepat juga lupa.. bukan melayu mudah lupa..manusia memang mudah lupa..

• hmm,banyak lah nak menaip pulak pagi2 ni..huhu.. tapi tak berkesempatan..

• next time, kalau rajin saya menaip lagi ye..insya'Allah..

Never Knew I Needed

for the way you changed my plans

for being the perfect distraction

for the way you took the idea that i have

of everything that i wanted to have

and made me see there was something missing

• **********

for the ending of my first begin

and for the rare and unexpected friend

for the way you're something that i never choose

but at the same time something i don't wanna lose

and never wanna be without ever again

• **********

you're the best thing i Never Knew I Needed

so when you were here i had no idea

you're the best thing i never knew i needed

so now it's so clear i need you here always

• ************

my accidental happily

the way you slime and how you comfort me

i must admit you were not a part of my book

but now if you open it up and take a look

you're the beginning and the end of every chapter

• **************

you're the best thing i never knew i needed

so when you were here i had no idea

you're the best thing i never knew i needed

so now it's so clear i need you here always

• *************

who'd knew that i'd be here

so unexpectedly

undeniablely happy

said with you right here, right here next to me

girl you're the..

• *************

you're the best thing i never knew i needed

so when you were here i had no idea

you're the best thing i never knew i needed

so now it's so clear i need you here always

baby baby

now it's so clear i need you here always

derita merindu

Kau katakan cinta gunakan akal

Bila aku gunakan, kau yang menyangkal

Bagaimana nak kekal

Kau katakan cinta gunakan minda

Bila aku gunakan, kau yang tak percaya

Bagaimana nak bahagia

Maafmu tak bererti, kau mudah sesali

Berulang kali telah kau mungkiri

Manis mulut berjanji terpedaya lagi

Menanti biar terus didustai

Kaulah bahagia (bagiku)

Kaulah derita (bagimu)

Esok lusamu

Tak ku kenal lagi engkau siapa

Dan aku cuba sedaya upaya

Telah ku usaha dengan sepenuh jiwa

Bagaimana hendak ku lupa

bayangan wajahmu selalu di depan mata

harum baumu masih dapat ku hidu

Bagaimana ingin aku membencimu

Jikalau setiap hari merindu

Sekiranya derita merinduimu itu sebenarnya bahagia..

Aku pilih derita..

Kaulah bahagia (bagiku)

Kaulah derita (bagimu)

Esok lusamu, tak ku kenal lagi engkau siapa

Mungkinkah esok atau lusa walau biarpun lama

Akan ku biar tiada ku tetap kan setia

Entah bila akan tiba sampai jua harimu yang sama

Esok seperti semalaman yang tak berubah

Kaulah tanda tanya.. kau tiada titik noktah

Ku dibuai mimpi lena dikejut igau semula

Kaulah tanda tanya.. kau tiada titik noktah

Ku dibuai mimpi lena dikejut igau semula

Seandainya kau berada di depan mata

Mudah untuk aku berkata-kata

Supaya dapatku melihat seraut wajahmu

Walaupun belum tentu kau mahu bertemu

Apalagi memandangku

Setelah ku turutkan segala kemahuan kau mainkan perasaan

Begitu mudah kau ucapkan terimalah saja kenyataan..

Aku masih terkilan

Maafmu tak bererti, kau mudah sesali

Berulang kali telah kau mungkiri

Manis mulut berjanji terpedaya lagi

Menanti biar terus didustai

Kaulah bahagia (bagiku)

Kaulah derita (bagimu)

Esok lusamu, tak ku kenal lagi engkau siapa

Kaulah bahagia (bagiku)

Kaulah derita (bagimu)

Esok lusamu, tak ku kenal lagi engkau siapa

Jika kau dapat memahami hati seorang perindu

Baru kau tahu derita hatiku

Jika suatu hari nanti giliran kau merindu

Baru kau ingat derita diriku

Segala yang berlaku bukan kemahuanku

Apa gunanya bahgia

Jikalau bahagia bersamamu hanyalah untuk sementara waktu

Aku pilih derita merinduimu

Maafmu tak bererti, kau mudah sesali

Berulang kali telah kau mungkiri

Manis mulut berjanji terpedaya lagi

Menanti biar terus didustai

Kaulah bahagia (bagiku)

Kaulah derita (bagimu)

Esok lusamu, tak ku kenal lagi engkau siapa

Kaulah bahagia (bagiku)

Kaulah derita (bagimu)

Esok lusamu, tak ku kenal lagi engkau siapa

maaf kepada hati-hati yang pernah kulukai atau kusakiti..

tak pernah terniat pun di hati ini

moga kalian menemui hati yang takkan melukai atau menyakiti hati kalian lagi..

aku insan biasa..penuh dengan kekurangan..

maafkan aku, kalian..

hari yang ceria!

• title tidaklah menggambarkan perasaan sebenar, tapi okay la.. adalah keceriaan sikit..

• well, yeah we need friends.. walaupun dia tak selalu ada dengan kita, tapi dia akan ada bila kita perlukan dia, sangat happy lah jugak..

• bila sedih dia buat kita ketawa..hilang rasa sedih..

• bila kecewa dia akan bagi nasihat berbakul2..dia buat kita bangkit balik..

• yeah, i am so happy when i am with you.. thats all i can say..

• you are near, yet so far..

• thank you, friend! :)

monolog sang hati

• hati selalu mengadu sendiri tentang dirinya, yang padanya sukar dipenuhi dengan indahnya hidup ini
• hati kadangkala merungut, yang padanya acap kali keinginan tidak dipenuhi seperti hati-hati yang lain
• hati seringkali risau, yang ianya adalah rapuh, mudah tercalar dan remuk dek keadaan sekelilingnya
• hati kemudiannya sedih, melihat, mendengar tentang kebahagiaan, keindahan dan kejayaan hati lain
• hati kadangnya menyesal pabila tersasar mendendam, menyalahkan malah membenci hati lain
• namun, hati bukannya tidak bersyukur terhadap penciptanya, kerana jauh disudutnya ia masih cinta pada Penciptanya yang Maha Agung

• sabarlah hati...
• hati ini masih punya banyak nikmat yang Dia kurniakan
• syukurkah hati..
• hati ini masih disayangi-Nya
• redhalah hati..
• hati ini masih didengari-Nya
• pohonlah apa sahaja wahai hati
• idamkanlah apa sahaja wahai hati
• Dia tahu, Dia mendengar
• Dia lebih mengetahui apa yang terbaik untukmu

• kerana Dia tetap menyayangimu wahai hati..

a lie that draws a smile or the truth that draws a tear?

• Let me be the only quiet party in the silent world of my own
• Let me be the only fugly party in the hideous world of my own
• Let me be the empty party in the vacuous world of my own
• Let me be the only misguided party in the fallacious world of my own
• I want more when I only have little
• I want bigger when I only have smaller
• I want longer when I only have shorter
• I am afraid of all your vows and promises
• I am afraid that life is cruel sometimes
• Thank God you are sweet, but why you are bitter?
• If life is so short, why am I neglecting the beauty of this life?
• I want to appreciate more
• I want to cherish more
• That is what I have to do this time
• Is someone there willing to share the bittersweet world of our own?
• Is there any?
• I am asking myself eventually
• And let the pouring rain and the chirp of birds telling me
• And telling you
• What is better, a lie that draws a smile or the truth that draws a tear?